Myth: Divorce Mediation Only Works When Spouses Can Communicate Well
Fact: If that were true, CMDR would be out of business. It is the mediator’s job to facilitate communication between spouses. A skilled mediator can draw out the less communicative party and help him or her vocalize ideas. The mediator is the catalyst in bringing about negotiation, compromise and agreement. However, it is the couple that decides what is fair and emerges as better communicators as a result of the mediation process.
Myth: The Divorce Process Moves Faster with Attorneys
Fact: The logistics of one spouse meeting with his attorney, and then waiting for the other spouse to meet with her attorney to review a proposal and come back with any changes are overwhelming and time consuming at best. Compare this situation with both spouses sitting down together with a mediator, problem solving, negotiating and leaving a mediation session with something accomplished. In general, mediation is a faster, more efficient process than litigation.
Myth: Using Divorce Attorneys is Less Expensive than Using A Divorce Mediator
Fact: Combined attorneys’ fees can deplete a family’s finances even before discovery, delays, trials, and countless phone conversations between attorneys. Mediation is a process that employs one primary facilitator. Even with consulting attorneys and a detailed agreement, the savings in time and money are substantial.
Myth: The Mediator Decides What is Fair for Both Spouses
Fact: Unlike an arbitrator, it is not the function of the mediator to make decisions for the divorcing spouses. The mediator’s role is to help couples negotiate an agreement that each of them considers fair. At CMDR, mediators also help couples to explore various options in order to weigh the different benefits and disadvantages.
Myth: Mediation Favors Men Over Women
Fact: It is the mediator’s responsibility to make sure that women and men have the knowledge and the know-how to make intelligent choices and that both parties understand their options and opportunities. Each participant needs to structure an agreement, built on knowledge and understanding, which provides the supports necessary for each one to build a new future.
Myth: Attorneys Have No Place in Mediation
Fact: Participation in mediation does not mean that the couple gives up rights to legal counsel. To the contrary, couples frequently use attorneys to review their agreement and guide them through the filing and hearing processes.
Myth: Attorneys Ensure That All the Details of Your Divorce Remain Confidential
Fact: All the filed declarations, where you and your spouse make accusations against each other to gain advantage, are public records available to anyone to view, even years later by your children and grandchildren. Mediation is a confidential process where decisions are made in a private conference room. There are no filed declarations making accusations against each other. You maintain your good reputation.
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