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Family and Elder Mediation: Helping Your Family Make the Best Choices By Guiding You Through the Hardest Conversations


February 1, 2012
Written by Halee D. Burg, Esq.

Part I:  Common Issues

As parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles age, many issues emerge for families.  Difficult decisions may need to be made; often, the choices are complex and emotional.  Family conversations concerning issues, choices and decisions can be challenging and contentious.  While family members share concern for their elder parent, aunt, uncle, stepparent or grandparent, they do not always share the same ideas as to what is best for the elder or for the family.  They may disagree about where the senior can live safely, who might care for them, the level of support they need, how to manage their finances responsibly, how to transition to a smaller living space, how their estate should be divided, and so on. Family conflict often erupts at the very time when relatives most need family unity and productive decision-making.

Entrenched family dynamics often re-surface as tensions build.  Decisions may be imposed by some family members or simply not made at all.  Sometimes an unanticipated crisis, such as a hip fracture following a fall, may trigger the need for immediate decisions. With communications already strained, family ties are threatened and productive discussion begins to unravel.

At the Centre for Mediation & Dispute Resolution (CMDR), we help families navigate safely the important conversations they want and need to have.  We encourage families to be proactive and work through issues together before a crisis occurs.  Our skilled and experienced mediators ensure that everyone involved in the conversation has a voice, that families secure the information they need to make good decisions, and that each family member feels that he or she is a part of the decision-making process and can support the decisions that are made.

Among the most common topics families raise in mediation are:

Part 2:  Frequently Asked Questions

Resources on Elders, Aging, and Caregiving

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