Mediation: A Problem-Solving Resource for Elder Issues

Common Issues

• Trusts, inheritance, and financial planning
• Health care proxies and power of attorney
• Future health and personal care decisions
• Discussing assisted living or nursing home options with parents
• Sharing responsibilities for parental care among siblings
• Managing care when some siblings live far away

Case Example: An 85-year-old father needed care after a fall but resisted assisted living.

Conflict:

• Brother wanted the father to live with him but worked long hours.
• Sibling suggested assisted living but faced accusations of selfishness.
• Father feared being alone but avoided expressing his concerns.

Resolution: A mediator facilitated open communication, helping the family develop fair strategies for care and communication.

Benefits of Utilizing a Mediator:

• Addresses subtle issues blocking resolution
• Develops tailored strategies for the family
• Provides a safe, neutral environment for discussions
• Ensures fairness and equal engagement for all members
• Helps maintain dignity for everyone involved